Tact

I'm a really tactless person. The worse okay not the worse.. but pretty bad..
I'll be even more tactless to guys because I know guys usually care less about critiques/the truth than girls.. Hurt a girl's feeling and you'll be on their bad list like forever...

Lately though I'm TRYING to change.. ever since I am reading the book "How to win friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie and since I noticed that some guys have been offended by my tactless comments..

It's really hard to try to be tactful.. It expects one to be very polite and selfless and diplomatic.. Why.. once I told a guy friend that his face has really cleared up ( in front of a few of our friends while we were eating at a restaurant. I KNOW.. I should have waited til I was alone with him before saying that.. but I was scared I would forget so I said it in front of others )

Why.. I meant well ( Thank god that guy friend was nice and didn't take it as a criticism).. I was just saying his face which used to have pimples now have none..
A girl friend who heard that laughed at me afterwards and told me how could I did that..
I was like... what did I do??? I was complimenting him.....

Okay so not to mention this Indonesian/Asian thing of being polite and tactful.. U even need to say sorry for something that is hardly ur fault but u gotta say it anyway to be polite..

okay but i guess tactful is important to guard others' feelings. I take criticism pretty well ( criticism I said ! not put-downs) but I must remember that not everyone take criticism well.. thus the art of being tactful is introduced to my life..
Check out the Dale Carnegie book.. it helps!